I’m Sorry That I’m Not Sorry

This post has nothing to do with food. Sorry. Wait no, I’m not really sorry. This is what I wanted to post about today, mmk? If you want a food post, go read any of my other posts. Or pretty much any blog on my blogroll.

I’m one of those people that apologizes for things that aren’t my fault, or for things I don’t really need to be sorry for. Does anyone else do this? At the very least, you probably know someone like this. I am that person. So these are things I tend to apologize for, that I’m really not sorry about:

1. I’m sorry you’re creepy and I don’t want to date you/kiss you/sleep with you. Why should I be sorry? You’re the one who’s creepy.

2. I’m sorry I don’t like beer. I think it tastes like rotten french fries. Every single kind tastes the same to me (i.e. gross). Guinness, Natty Light. You name it. Pass me some Kombucha instead. Mmk? Thanks.

3. I’m sorry I don’t eat meat. Sometimes I feel like I’m an inconvenience for not just eating what everyone else is eating. But that’s my choice, no? Pass me the carrot sticks, please.

4. I’m sorry It’s past my bed time. I need my sleep. Give me a good reason to stay up late, and I will. Give me a lame reason, and I’m going to sleep.

 

I’m all for apologizing if you do something wrong, but lately, I’ve realized that sometimes I apologize when I shouldn’t. I don’t think it’s all that bad, except that sometimes I apologize instead of standing up for myself. Apologizing has become my cop-out to avoid confrontation.

Are you an excessive apologizer? Does it drive you crazy when people apologize for things that aren’t their fault?

I’m going to work on standing up for myself when I should.

Happy Friday, loves. I hope you all have a fantastic weekend!!

<3 Liz

Comments

  1. Good for you! This is DEFINITELY something I’m working on. Do YOU lady! I do like beer but I’d choose a kombucha over a beer any day.

  2. Yeahh … I don’t apologize for much. If I do, it is usually sarcastic.
    I’m kind of a bitch, and I’m not sorry for that. It can be a positive thing — If anyone insults anybody I love, I will attack you like a fucking spider monkey. (Again, not sorry.)
    I don’t think that anyone should be an excessive apologizer because there are some things that we just can’t help. Those things that are part of our innate personalities are included. If we don’t like beer, then we don’t like beer, and we shouldn’t have to say, “I’m sorry,” for that. (I don’t drink, BTW. I will never apologize for that.)

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  3. I totally apologize for everything. And even when I don’t say it outloud, I still think it. Craziness!! I think its a girl thing though. We often feel we need to take the blame, and I’m really not sure why!!

  4. Good for your girl!!! :D I probably apologize to much too…..

  5. OMG IM SOOOO WITH YOU! I feel like I apologize for EVERYTHING even when its not my fault. I dont mind it necessarily, but what I DO mind is when OTHER people DONT apologize when it IS their fault! You know it would be nice for everyone else to have the same courtesy to take the responsibility for whatever the situation is, but the sad fact is that a lot of people dont because they NEVER think things are their fault!

    good post! Im glad your not sorry that your not sorry!

  6. I do apologize a lot for things that aren’t my fault, and in some of those cases I really should learn to be more assertive. Sometimes though, especially when you’re dealing with someone really irate or irrational, an apology can really help to calm them down even if they don’t deserve it. I don’t mind apologizing if it’s going to help someone, as long as I don’t end up taking the blame for something unnecessarily.

  7. Girl you are just like me, I apologize for things that I don’t need to apologize for. I’m sorry I don’t eat McDonalds, I’m sorry I have to go workout, I’m sorry I eat dinner early…Jeeshh I don’t need to be sorry. Love this post ;)

  8. haha- great post. Yeah, that creepy guy- it really is his fault. Don’t be sorry. ;)

  9. this is awesome. i only apologize when i’m super drunk. haha

  10. LOVE THIS.. i apologize way too much.. i just do it to end the tension.. but sometimes i know im right or i know i dont need to be apologizing!

  11. I apologize too much…I can totally relate. I apologize for not being much of a drinker, I apologize for going to the gym instead of to a party, I apologize for waking up bright and early instead of sleeping in, I apologize for over-achieving on school assignments. I guess I’m just hoping that people will like me more if I apologize? In reality, I should just try to meet more people who are accepting of my habits!

  12. Love this post! I catch myself apologizing more often than I like.

  13. I too apoligize like you. Sorry I don’t drink either(never have nor never will). Sorry I don’t eat meat.Sorry, I don’t party. I’m sorry but I try to do what’s right. Why am I that way? I don’t like anyone mad or dissapointed in me. But you know what!? I shouldn’t care cause doing what’s right and living my life as a Christian is not something I should be sorry for. Love ya!

  14. “Apologizing has become my cop-out to avoid confrontation.” – It’s become that for me to. Glad you posted this. It’s serves as a reminder I don’t need to apologize for EVERYTHING. If they don’t like it, well, that’s their deal.

  15. I love this post! I used to apologize for everything back in high school. But now, I feel like I know who I am and I’m not sorry for loving Star Wars, or wanting to sit at home and read all night! That’s who I am and I’m proud of it!! :) Thanks for writing this!!

  16. I apologize waaaaaaaaay too much! The other day, somebody bumped into ME and I said I was sorry! Hmm…lame much? I really need to get better about that! Thanks for posting the reminder!

  17. I am definitely an excessive apologizer! I’ve actually had people ask me why I’m apologizing.. haha. I don’t mean to, it’s just become a habit now.

    PS. I actually don’t mind beer anymore! Use to HATE it and then.. I don’t know. It almost reminds me of champagne and I LOVE champagne. :)

  18. Sounds like me :/

    Were cool :)

    Whitney

  19. I like this (non-food-related) post! I apologize too much. And then I get cranky if my apology is not gracefully accepted. Haha! I think half the time when I’m apologizing, what I REALLY want is for the person to tell me I have no reason to apologize. Huh. That sounds kind of needy.

  20. Love this! It’s just so much easier to apologize, but we all need to stop thinking or caring what others may think, and just be true to ourselves. I, personally, am not sorry I didn’t blog last night. I’m sorry I got mad at my hubby ’cause it was late and I was a grump, but I’m not sorry I didn’t share my Saturday with the internet before bedtime.

    Have a rad week girl!! And stay with your no-beer, no-meat ways. They make you who you are, which is pretty awesome if you ask me :)

  21. How can you not like beer?! Hehe ;-)
    Kombucha is equally great though – I tried it for the first time the other day – a shock to the system at first but I loved it by the end of the bottle! And it’s good for you as well (unlike beer… woops)

  22. I love number 4!!! That’s exactly me. I LOVE my sleep and if there’s a good reason for me to stay awake I will, but if I need to go to bed at 8:30 to get my 8 hours of sleep that’s what I do. I’m sorry that you call me a grandma… but really I’m not.

  23. I love the “It’s past my bedtime portion.” I love my sleep so I totally understand.

    Great post!

  24. You go girl!!!!! This is exactly what I needed! :D Thanks!

    xoxo
    Kathleen

  25. Yeah, this is me all the way! Ha.

  26. My, don’t I know all about this problem! I’ve literally lost sleep thinking about how I could apologise for something, or make it right, when I’m not even really at fault! I think it’s all about making sure you value your own opinion and values over others’; if you lose friends because other people don’t like that you’re vegetarian or because they want it all their way, well then, what kind of friend are they anyway!

    ps. Thank you for commenting on our blog, I’m so glad you enjoyed it! And, I’m glad it led me to finding yours too, because it’s a gem!

  27. I totally do this too. The other day our custodian was complaining about emptying trash and I mumbled “I’m sorry.”. Why? Then he said “no your not, otherwise you wouldn’t have done it.” I was thoroughly confused, and responded “I’m half sorry then.” still not sure why I apologized.

  28. Amen! I know I’m a few years late, but seriously, AMEN! I apologize for everything that no one else should care about. So I’m a vegetarian? No, I’m not sorry that you invited me to your house for dinner and now you are cutting lettuce because you had no idea…. Oh wait, you knew you invited a vegetarian? And no, I’m not sorry that I wont drink your coffee because it tastes like crap, and I rather drink anything else than this! And no, I’m not sorry that I’m sleepy, have too wake up super early in the morning to do a dozen things and cannot stay up late. Lol, sorry for the (very late) rant, but this post seriously hit a spot for me.

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